“Unless we get children to try different things, how will they ever learn which things are fun and which are not fun? Don’t they need to learn to make themselves do things they are not sure about, to learn about things that are valuable but not immediately obviously so?”
It’s more important to learn how to make things fun, and how to avoid things that you can’t make fun. Having a rule which overrides your reason is at best going to entrench bad habits. How do you know the thing you are forcing yourself (or your child) to do is actually right? If it is right, why can’t you (or your child) feel good about it? It might be unpleasant in the sense that a cold shower would be unpleasant if your hot water heating has broken and you really want a shower, but you can do that voluntarily without forcing yourself to do anything. This other idea – of there being valuable things that no one would do without either being forced to or forcing themselves to – is false.
Getting children to do things they do not want to do, and doing things you do not want to do, systematically impairs creativity and impedes the growth of knowledge.
- Surely children need discipline to teach them self-discipline?
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Sarah Fitz-Claridge, Taking Children Seriously FAQ: ‘Unless we get children try different things, how will they ever learn which things are fun and which are not fun?’, https://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/unless-we-get-children-try-different-things-how-will-they-ever-learn-which-things-are-fun-and-which-are-not-fun/