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How do you raise a child to believe in freedom?
What if your child runs into traffic?￼
Criticism scheduling and privacy
Why do you like IFS but not ‘Self-led parenting’?
What do you mean by ‘coercionist’?
Fallibilism as a way of being and acting
What do you mean by non-coercive? What is the difference between coercion and non-coercion?
Surely it is cruel to force people to live with the consequences of the ideas and preferences they had when they were children?
Surely studies show that parents have little impact on how people turn out?
Unless we get children try different things, how will they ever learn which things are fun and which are not fun?
Isn’t taking children seriously a risky experiment with children? Is there any evidence that it works? Has it been studied?
How do you handle the issue of other people coercing your child?
Unnatural consequences revisited
What about instilling values like freedom, fallibilism and the idea of taking children seriously?
How can I drop the anti-rational part of my mind that interferes with me taking my children seriously?
How can I overcome the antirational memes disabling my creativity, with my disabled creativity?!
Why did my mother’s coercive words fly out of my mouth?!
If we should take babies seriously, should we not take pigs seriously too?
Does taking children seriously mean not influencing them?
What is wrong with loving limits for children?
If you are not coercing your child, what do you do instead of coercion?
How do you determine what food to give your children?
Why not say that the policy is non-coercion except on important issues?
What to do when your child says “Go away” or “I don’t want to talk about it”
“What if…?” questions revisited
Is hiding medicine in your child’s food wrong?
Surely children need to learn to deal with restrictions to prepare them for life in society?
Who am I to criticise someone else?
If criticism is valuable why not be more critical?
Surely criticism is always good?
What if your child wants to drive?
How do you intervene non-coercively when one child is attacking another?
Is coercion always wrong?
What do you have against gentle coercion?
Do children not taught that they can’t always get their own way become entitled and inconsiderate?
Is the purpose of taking children seriously to avoid the harm coercion would do?
Surely coercion is ok when the parent is right and the child is wrong?
What do you have against coercion?
Surely children are not born knowing right and wrong?
Why does parenting feel so hard?
How to read this site
Taking Children Seriously: a new view of children
The Taking Children Seriously survey
The paradigm shift
Can an emotion be wrong?
Why giving children rules and boundaries is a mistake