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How do you raise a child to believe in freedom?
Free to learn: the immorality of compulsory schools
Dead Poets Society is not taking children seriously
What if your child runs into traffic?￼
Why do you like IFS but not ‘Self-led parenting’?
What do you mean by ‘coercionist’?
Fallibilism as a way of being and acting
The relationship-building power of explanations
What do you mean by non-coercive? What is the difference between coercion and non-coercion?
Surely it is cruel to force people to live with the consequences of the ideas and preferences they had when they were children?
Surely studies show that parents have little impact on how people turn out?
Surely kids need to be forced to learn maths?
How do you handle the issue of other people coercing your child?
Unnatural consequences revisited
How can I drop the anti-rational part of my mind that interferes with me taking my children seriously?
How can I become more aware of anti-rational parts in my mind?
If anti-rational memes are compelling me to coerce my children, what hope is there?!
Why did my mother’s coercive words fly out of my mouth?!
Why do parents coerce their children despite having been through it themselves?
If a parent has an aversion to something a child enjoys doing, how do you solve that problem?
If coercion has impaired my ability to correct errors, is taking children seriously even possible?
Why does it sometimes hurt to think about Taking Children Seriously?
Surely we should communicate our disapproval to our children?
If we should take babies seriously, should we not take pigs seriously too?
What do you do about vaccinating your children?
What is wrong with loving limits for children?
If you are not coercing your child, what do you do instead of coercion?
What is the relationship between Karl Popper’s epistemology, the ideas of David Deutsch and Taking Children Seriously?
How do you determine what food to give your children?
How can we express approval when our children do something good without manipulating them by implying that we would disapprove if they had made a different choice?
What if my child both hates school and likes being in school with all his friends?
At what age should children first leave the house on their own, visit their friend next door on their own, go to the cinema on their own, hitchhike from coast to coast on their own, etc.?
Surely suffering and frustration make us stronger?
Why not say that the policy is non-coercion except on important issues?
If we are fallible and not omniscient, surely it is exaggerating to say it is always possible to solve problems without coercion?
What to do when your child says “Go away” or “I don’t want to talk about it”
“What if…?” questions revisited
Is hiding medicine in your child’s food wrong?
Surely it is necessary to coerce children to avoid them doing unsafe or unethical things?
How can we communicate urgent information to our pre-verbal toddlers?
Surely children need discipline to teach them self-discipline?
Why not argue for Taking Children Seriously in terms of rights?
Who am I to criticise someone else?
If criticism is valuable why not be more critical?
Surely criticism is always good?
What if your child wants to drive?
I’m a vegetarian. What if my child wants to eat meat?
How do you intervene non-coercively when one child is attacking another?
Is coercion always wrong?
What do you have against gentle coercion?
Do children not taught that they can’t always get their own way become entitled and inconsiderate?
Is the purpose of taking children seriously to avoid the harm coercion would do?
If I am not allowed to coerce my child, surely I am being coerced myself?
Surely coercion is ok when the parent is right and the child is wrong?
What do you have against coercion?
Surely children are not born knowing right and wrong?
Does Taking Children Seriously mean children always getting their own way?
Surely it is natural for parents to control their children?
What do you mean by ‘paternalism’?
What is Taking Children Seriously?
Why does parenting feel so hard?
How to read this site
Taking Children Seriously: a new view of children
The Taking Children Seriously survey
The paradigm shift
Can an emotion be wrong?
Taking the free world and children seriously: an anecdote
Is creativity a boon to the affected individual?
Is creativity even desirable?
Why giving children rules and boundaries is a mistake