- Taking Children Seriously on Screens as a natural, integrated, positive part of life: “That is the standard mainstream view held by well-meaning parents everywhere. It is viewing children through the lens of paternalism…” Feb 7, 18:23
- on Screens as a natural, integrated, positive part of life: “It is possible for children to use screens, but it is necessary to be very selective about the content they…” Feb 1, 21:15
- on Instead of Cry It Out, try bedtime anarchy: “We aborted the cry-it-out method early enough, I think, so all our children have been treated pretty much by the…” Jan 13, 17:26
- on Instead of Cry It Out, try bedtime anarchy: “How sad it must be to be a parent unable to experience human empathy or compassion for their own baby.…” Dec 20, 01:05
- on Screens as a natural, integrated, positive part of life: “Oh man this is such a valuable paper. This needs wider readership. Like my wife said it leaves you reeling!…” Dec 20, 00:50
- on New parent? Planning to have a baby and questioning the standard parenting ideas? Don’t miss this critical discussion!: “Great piece. We have friends who are about to have a baby and this is the first article about taking…” Dec 20, 00:47
- on Instead of Cry It Out, try bedtime anarchy: “We did the cry-it-out for 2 nights with our first child and like Peter we could not continue. I can’t…” Dec 20, 00:43
- on Instead of Cry It Out, try bedtime anarchy: “I am wondering if you see in a difference in your children now, since you’ve gone through two different methods?…” Dec 19, 10:48
- on What if your child wants to drive?: “How sad for you that noncoersive parenting and happy kids is “insane fantasy land.” It’s reality for my kids!!” Nov 17, 13:17
- on Instead of Cry It Out, try bedtime anarchy: “Your story is our story. We did the cry it out for 1 night with our first and are still…” Oct 20, 11:21
- on How do you solve problems where there is a conflict of interest?: “All conflicts of interest originate from the conflict between ego attached selves. These conflicts between selves lead inexorably to coercion…” Oct 17, 20:45
- on Surely coercion is ok when the parent is right and the child is wrong?: “Perhaps I am misunderstanding what you are saying, but it seems as if you are asserting that it is wrong…” Oct 15, 22:02
- on Surely coercion is ok when the parent is right and the child is wrong?: “What I find is that when I believe there is a *right* answer, I begin to control and coerce. To…” Oct 15, 21:34
- on “If you do X, I will give you Y”: “There is nothing necessarily wrong with offering money for help with the chores, unless the ‘offer’ is a double bind,…” Oct 13, 23:02
- on Does Taking Children Seriously mean children always getting their own way?: “It’s parents like you that are responsible for all the kids feeling like they should get their own way and…” Oct 13, 16:01
- on If children are people just like adults, why should we treat our children any differently from how we treat adults?: “I disgree. Everybody in the household needs to do their fair share to keep the household running. Why should all…” Oct 13, 15:47
- on “If you do X, I will give you Y”: “Just curious, how do you get kids to do chores if you don’t bribe them?” Oct 13, 15:42
- on Will a child not made to do chores ever develop a work ethic? And if not, how will they ever have a good life?: “Chores shouldn’t fall on parents alone. Get your kids to help out, giving them household chores is good for them.…” Oct 13, 15:38
- on The can-do attitude versus the can’t-do attitude: “Re: “I would add that the problem solving could become a joyful, funny and participatory activity in itself as well,…” Oct 5, 16:14
- on The can-do attitude versus the can’t-do attitude: “Love this! We used to call the negative attitude a “can-don’t” attitude. 🙂 I would add that the problem solving…” Oct 5, 15:17
- on Dead Poets Society is not taking children seriously: “I very much like your idea of what the boys were in effect saying at the end. The point I…” Sep 29, 20:06
- on Dead Poets Society is not taking children seriously: “The scene when Keating totally disregards Todd’s wish to not speak in public is painful. Keating is not taking Todd…” Sep 29, 06:24
- on How to read this site: “Delightfully clever! I’m picturing a flat head screwdriver prying people’s minds open as they read this … like opening a…” Sep 28, 20:32
- on Unless we get children try different things, how will they ever learn which things are fun and which are not fun?: “It is very understandable that you see him as broken, but be aware that when we view our children as…” Sep 26, 20:06
- on Dead Poets Society: a film review: “Given that Dead Poets Society clearly speaks to so many vibrantly brilliant young people (not to mention that it inspires…” Sep 21, 14:56
- on Unless we get children try different things, how will they ever learn which things are fun and which are not fun?: “With our first, we tried getting him to try different things. He resisted and fought us until we got physical…” Sep 3, 21:47
- on When a solution is not found, is it always the parents who must bear the brunt of the sacrifice?: “Right. So much suffering is due to our imagining that there is a fixed pie. Yet because our knowledge can…” Sep 3, 01:50
