Hand wringing instead of intervening?

From the archives: The original post was posted on 26th March, 1995

A poster wrote:

I will amplify my previous statements. I do not allow my children to hurt other children. If they do, which is not very often, I deal with it, not by hand wringing, but by immediate intervention and punishment (sorry Sarah).

Well I have never said that the first priority should not be to protect the victim! Whatever makes you think I would say that?! (Punishment? Well – there, I’d differ with you.)

See also:

Sarah Fitz-Claridge, 1995, ‘Hand wringing instead of intervening’, https://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/hand-wringing-instead-of-intervening/