Clarification of what I mean by ‘coercion’

From the archives: Posted on 1st March, 1994

A poster wrote:

“Can I get some clarification about what you mean by ‘coercion’? I get the impression you mean something different than ‘force or threat of force’? If I’m giving my kid boundaries, limits, rules, and directions, am I coercing her? What about guiding her? Can I even talk to my kid without coercing her?? How do you determine what’s coercive and what’s not?”

Does this help clarify?:

“Can I get some clarification about what you mean by ‘coercion’? I get the impression you mean something different than ‘force or threat of force’? If I’m giving my wife boundaries, limits, rules, and directions, am I coercing her? What about guiding her? Can I even talk to my wife without coercing her?? How do you determine what’s coercive and what’s not?”

If you were the one on the sharp end of those things, would you be being taken seriously?

See also:

Sarah Fitz-Claridge, 1994, ‘Clarification of what I mean by “coercion”’, https://www.takingchildrenseriously.com/clarification-of-what-i-mean-by-coercion/