The art of not letting your children do what you (the parents) think is wrong, is the opposite of taking them seriously.
(That and the theory that being hurt is natural or unavoidable.)
Another way to put this is:
1) stop hurting/coercing each other 2) and stop using coercion to control children to make them do what you (the parents) think is right
Parents can be wrong! We should want our children to have better ideas than we do, not the same ones.