My son is 14. He has a 12 year old brother and i am a single parent. I am finding it hard to bond with my eldest, because he has decided that he is 'man of the house'. For the past 2 years, he has found it difficult to cope with his father becoming a transexual and then he came out as gay at school. When ever we argue, he ends up shoving me across the room, swearing and punching me!

I know he needs something to do to let off steam, but he does not want to do ANYTHING he just goes on his laptop when he gets in from school. I have asked him if he wants to do judo or swimming etc, but he just shouts, throws his fists around and slams his bedroom door. His younger brother usually tries to pull him away from me, but he ends up hurt.

What i need is advice on how to calm the situation, before it gets to the stage where he becomes violent. He has been to counselling, but he now refuses to go and apart from dragging him down the road (he is far too strong for me) his brother and i just tiptoe around him, trying not to upset him (which is hard, because anything sets him off!!) Life is almost unbearable, my family live 300 miles away and i dont socialise at all, because i live in a bad estate and i am practically a recluse. Does anyone have any suggestions??

help.
i am bored
and fed up
and tired.
in the last 2 days, i have had 5 hours sleep.
my so called best friends hate me
and i am generally miserable
my french teacher appears to be going through a midlife crisis, and i am stuck next to sam, who keeps looking over my shoulder to see what i am writing. i should be finishing off my animations, but i left my french book at home, and can't be bothered to try and remember it. So i am writing this instead.....
i am feeling weird, my boyfriend used to go out with my best friend, then SHE broke up with HIM.
i now go out with him, and she's not talking to me on the account that she thinks i stole her boyfriend.
ever since i started going out with him, she has been really jealous. she purposely made good friends with him again (she's hated his guts before we went out). at first, i thought, good, no problem, i'm glad they are friends, but she's just admitted that she still likes him a LOT. he's still a bit hung up on her, and according to my friend, she asked him out last night. apparantly, he's now gonna dump me for her.

my life sucks.