I have a girl 1 1/2 year old who gets into extreme temper tantrums. I am trying desperately to find a way to communicate with her, but she doesnt talk yet, and I dont think she's old enough to understand a 'common preference'. If she doesn't get her way RIGHT NOW, she is instantly transformed into a red-faced raging scream machine. she hits me too. I dont know what to do, I'm trying to follow the TCS, but it just seems impossible. All the advice here involves talking with the child, no one mentions how to 'talk' to a baby. A friend today told me that my baby is a spoiled brat who needs to have some discipline. that's like a slap in the face to me.

I'm trying to help my girl find solutions that we can both agree on, and have both of out needs met, but a baby just doesnt understand that mama has needs too, that aren't always the same as baby's needs.

I'm going crazy here, What can I do?